Meeting a FRAF: It’s a good thing


I had a really wonderful experience recently. No, I didn’t get to meet Richard Armitage (darn it). But what I did get to do was meet, for the very first time, another RA fan, one who means a great deal to me.

We had wanted to get together before but things just didn’t work out. This time, they did.

Do you know how wonderful it is to finally be able to put a face and voice (although I had heard her speak before) to someone with whom you have bonded via cyberspace? To be able to give a real hug rather than just a virtual one? It’s pretty damned good, let me tell you.

Not only did she get to meet me, she got to meet the most important man in my life, yes, Snake Slayer extraordinaire and Master Baker, my husband.  The three of us enjoyed a good chat together before I whisked FRAF (Fellow RA Fan) off to lunch.

After a nice relaxing meal together at our local world-class golf course, which offers a really lovely view and a minimum of noise, I took her on a mini-tour of our town. Driving around, I pointed out some of the historic old homes and churches and other points of interest, such as the building that housed my former employer (she obligingly “booed” and “hissed” as we passed). I think I might have been some sort of travel guide or museum docent in a previous life. I love doing stuff like that.  (Come to think of it, she did mention I should consider a job with the Chamber of Commerce.)

A shot of the lovely golf course where we ate lunch.

Our county courthouse, which dates back to 1902.

This is a home of a friend of mine, and it’s lovely–a great place for entertaining. It’s also for sale, so if you are interested . . .

Turns out Alabama—and this was her first visit—was greener, prettier and softer than she expected it to be. She said she could understand why we loved the area. And apparently I am just what you would expect—now, I am not sure if that is a good thing or a bad thing.

She was duly impressed with spouse, as I knew she would be. I have extremely good taste in menfolk, what can I say? We all talked again for a while after the lunch and tour.  All too soon, it was time for her to hit the road. We shared an even bigger bear hug and our hope to do it again.

FRAF was just as warm and kind and funny as I had expected her to be. And no, we didn’t only talk about Mr. Armitage. Oh, he got his fair share of time, trust me—after all, we couldn’t miss the chance to wax rhapsodic about the TDHBEW right in the same room together, could we? Squee!

But we also talked about other things like family and pets, blogs and writing, future plans and past disappointments. We laughed a lot together; at one point, I cried just a little.

I know several fans around the world are planning on meeting as part of The Hobbit premiere later this year. I can only say, “Go for it!”

Meeting a fellow fan in RL is a joyous experience that many of us have not yet had. Take advantage of the opportunity if you get it.  It’s fun and interesting and for me, it re-affirmed my belief there are some truly great fans–great human beings–in Armitage World.

After a summer that proved a major bummer for me in certain ways, meeting my FRAF was truly uplifting, an event I will treasure for a long time to come.  Richarding is even more fun when you can share it in RL, too.  Keep on Richarding and carry on!

About fedoralady

I'm an LA native--Lower Alabama, that is. My husband of more than 30 years and I live here on a portion of my family's former farm with two gorgeous calicos and a handsome GSD mix. My background is art education, and over the years I've been a teacher, department store photographer, sales associate and a journalist. My husband, his business partner and I have Pecan Ridge Productions, a video production company, for which I shoot & edit video and stills and manage marketing. I also still write part-time for the local paper. I love movies, music, art, photography and books, and my tastes in all of them are eclectic.

18 responses »

  1. I’m ver, very glad you got to meet each other and found each other muy simpatico. I have a lot of adniration fir both of you, and it seemed only natural that you would enjoy spending time together. Yes, Keep Richarding and Carry On — sometimes it’s all we can do.

  2. I’m so glad for both of you that you had such a wonderful time together! I think you both needed it. I’ve always had really good experiences meeting other fans and I’m really hoping to get to the meet up in NYC if that’s solid.

    • I was almost as excited as if I was actually meeting RA, which is a pretty good compliment to her, I think. 😉 I would love to be able to attend some sort of regional meeting of fans. I think it would be grand!

  3. Oh, FedoraLady. That meeting with FRAF sounds so lovely. You seemed to take me along your tour around town and I tried to hiss and buuhhh as well, when you mentioned your late boss ;o). What a lovely story and experience with FRAF. I hope you get a chance to meet again soon. All the best wishes!

  4. Yes, I do know how wonderful that is! I have met a number of other Aussie RA fans and it is a great experience. We start chatting away about all sorts of things – usually after a big hug first. 🙂 Only downer is that most of them don’t live close by – darn tbat Oz is such a big country!
    I loved the pics of where you live, it looks so beautiful.

    • Yeah, the big hug seems mandatory. 😉 I am just excited to know there are other RA fans here in the southeastern US. For a long time I felt rather isolated.

      Glad you liked the photos. There’s a lot of beauty to be found here, although I am a bit prejudiced. 😉

  5. That’s so wonderful!! Sometimes, it’s hard not to have someone you can share your love of All Things Richard Armitage with. Every now and again something RA related slips out when I’m with the one of the 3 people who know about my love of ATRA in RL. Then, I’m subjected to serious teasing and eye-rolling! It sure would be nice to be able to discuss things with a fellow addict.

  6. Meeting new people is great isn’t it? Being able to discuss RA at length is really good too! 😉

    About 18 months ago I started meeting up with people I met through Twitter mainly as a result of a shared interest in RA. So far I’ve met 10 people and one is sleeping with her son in my flat right now! I’ve made lifelong really close friends and found other interests that we share. It’s changed my life so much and expanded my horizons massively. It is the best thing I’ve ever done!

  7. Yes, it is great that the internet gives us a forum to meet one another and to express ourselves. The object of our common interest is as old as literature, drama, storytelling, all the arts. I could go on and on about this–that’s why we need blogs, why people have conventions, and write books.

    I find my world much expanded since I found the RA community. We need to get out of boxes that confine us by our circumstances of birth or existence. RA has done this admirably well himself. He has solved the problem of the orange pants that he bought as an adolescent but didn’t have the nerve to wear. Turn them into a Victorian top hat and cravat, or better yet, black leather!

    Why shouldn’t we acknowledge that we appreciate the beauty he creates? People do, after all, become addicted to loving, doing, devoting themselves to the damnedest things! Richard Armitage does seem to be, by all acounts, a very decent chap.

    Are the DC suburbs part of the southeastern US, Angie? Still a bit far from LA!

    • Some people consider the DC area to be part of the south. 😉 You are so right–we do need to get out of boxes that limit us to due to our age, our race, nationality, creed, and more. Richard has gone for his dreams–“I believe in fairy tales and serindipitous encounters . . .” and look at how he has inspired so many of us in turn!

      If people can know the stats by heart for a sports team over the last 50 years, I can crush on a fantastically talented, bright and delightful gentleman and certainly not feel ashamed. There’s a lot to celebrate and appreciate there.

  8. The internet in general has expanded my world through shared interests of one thing or another. I have made life long friends through the internet. Some people I have known now for at least 10 years and they are some of my dearest facebook friends and most staunch supporters in anything that I do. One time I met up with a few in New Orleans for the French Quarter Festival in 2003 and we had a blast. There was once a gathering in Las Vegas which I was not able to attend at the time.

    Recently through my love of reading I have made friends with a couple of up and coming authors. They are such lovely people and it is nice when they reach out to you. One of them recently sent me a copy of her Kindle book about Paris, France which I read and enjoyed very much. The author is presently off to Paris for two months. She also wrote a sequel to North & South titled Margaret of the North. I read that too and she did a pretty good job continuing the love story of John Thornton & Margaret Hale. I still love A Heart for Milton best though and Trudy Brasure has been a pleasure to get to know online. She also loves to read a lot like I do.

    My love of food and cooking is also how I have gotten to know people online. I recently made a casserole that I saw a fellow blogger blog about and that was fun. I took pictures of how mine came out and of course posted pictures of it. I have had people email me after reading something that I posted and it was very helpful to them. It really brightens your world when you know you have helped someone. Some of the people really make me laugh out loud sometimes too. So many bloggers have inspired me and I am so thankful.

    Angie, I am really glad that you posted those pictures of Alabama. I went through Alabama on my way to New Orleans and what I saw were broken down old shacks that was supposed to be houses that people lived in. I felt as if I had been transported back in time to the depression. I need to remember that every state has its beautiful places and not so good ones. New York sure does.

    I think it would be fun to have an east coast event for RA fans in the future. I don’t know anyone locally who loves RA as much as I do. One day I emailed one of my dear friends a picture of RA and said that I “divorced” Tyler Perry for this man RA. She emailed me back saying I had better get Tyler back. I could not believe that she didn’t find RA attractive. 🙂

    • Oh yes, I’ve been to number of places around the country and a few overseas and everywhere you pretty much go, you will see “the good, the bad and the ugly.” Every place has its plusses and minuses. Alabama has its less attractive qualities, but it also has a lot of beauty to appreciate.

      Interestingly enough, a Notre Dame architecture professor and a group of his top students came to our town several years ago for a special project in which they came up with proposed revitalization plan for our downtown area (like many towns, much of the business had moved out to the interstate and shopping centers).

      The professor told us that many of the old buildings of historical value–both beautiful and not-so-beautiful–had remained intact in our part of the country where they might have been torn down in other parts. Remember, it took a long time for the south to recover after the Civil War. And the region was facing depression before the stock market crash in ’29. People couldn’t afford to tear down and rebuild or to renovate so the structures remained more or less intact.

      The Internet has definitely broadened a lot of people’s horizons and allowed friendships and support systems to develop around the world. And that can only be a good thing.

  9. Lovely post of a lovely encounter with great photos! Thank you for sharing! I have made RL friends with people I met online through a shared interest. I think that’s the best aspect of the internet. And I very much hope I’ll get to meet fellow RA fans in December in London! 🙂

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