Look for the good in the bad, the happy in the sad . . .



It’s been a rather tough day, after an unpleasant night. I am well behind on social media and keeping up with other’s blog entries. A lot on my plate at present, a lot on my mind.

Someone very dear to me, a relative by marriage and a person with a great heart for animals and their welfare in our county, has been hurt by someone else with an equal passion for animals but very little tact and diplomacy. My sister-in-heart has actually been having bad dreams, worrying this may negatively impact our organization’s efforts to help find homes for as many animals as possible.

Yesterday at our humane society board meeting I saw my dear friend cry as she spoke of this. I had to get up and give her a hug. I also gave her the advice above, and I think it may have helped, at least at little. And maybe it will help some of you. I think we also need to remember the words below:


I have struggled at times with my self-image; I suspect many of us have done or do so, including our own dear Mr. Armitage.  He grew up doubtful of his looks, uncomfortable with his height, never as certain of his talent as he might have wished to be. One of the things I appreciate most about him is the honesty with which he shares his own struggles.

It hasn’t been easy for him by any stretch of the imagination, nothing was ever handed to him on the proverbial silver platter; he’s earned the successes he’s now achieving. It’s said that good things come to those who wait, but in Richard’s case, I would say good things come to those who are patient and still plug away, keep working, keep perfecting their craft, keep behaving like the class act they are. Our awkward duckling has blossomed into this elegant, beautiful swan, while the boyishly cute fellows who relied on their cheeky charm and dimpled smiles are left in the dust.


I’ve said I think he makes a great role model for other actors and people in general– after all, he’s a true, old-fashioned gentleman and a real professional with a strong work ethic and willingness to be a good team player.


I think this is what RA strives for in his work and life. I’d like to be the same. I don’t have his good health and natural athleticism, and I am afraid I’d never be able to endure all he does physically; still, when I look at him and his example, I know I’d like to be a better, stronger person in every way.

And so, even though it’s not been a “good” day, there are lessons to be learned, things to be gleaned and tomorrow to look forward to. I leave you with these words of wisdom . . .


And this adorable image (oh, Uncle Thorin had a few bad days, too, and more than just facing Azog and dragons!)


15 responses »

  1. Great post, Angie. Thank you for this. I know so many people who are made to feel bad about themselves because of the hurtful and tactless comments others make about them. Are the people who say these things just thoughtless and lacking in respect and consideration for others? Or are they mean wretches who want to hurt? Whichever, we need to persevere in spite of such people and rise to the challenges of living with adversity. Hugs help, and here’s some gentle ones from me. {{{hugs}}}

  2. Heavens,Child! Blessings sent your way….XO..XO…..That was LOVELY, and well-said ,about our Mr.Armitage..Thank-YOU. I’m sorry to hear of your friend..You are going thru quite a bit yourself…We keep you close and send blessings Your way,too…as you sent kind wishes HIS way….XOXO back at ya’! Call “Humma’ like my grand-kids did…(tee-hee-hee!)

  3. Wonderful post Angie. You always manage to put into words what many of us feel on a day to day basis. It always upsets me when someone is affected by the hurtful words of others. I think most of us have experienced this but some of us aren’t as thick-skinned as others and find it hard to shake off. I found this lovely quote today on a friends FB page and I thought I would share it with you.

    “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.”

    I passed it on to a friend who has more than once been on the receiving end of verbal abuse and has recently lost her Mom. She loved it. 🙂 Life isn’t always easy, but Richard has helped me to “dance” many, many times!

    • I love that quote! I have written it down to post on my desk and to share with a couple of friends who are down in the dumps! Thanks Teuchter!

  4. So well written! So sorry for your friend and for you having a bad day. I really agree with the first point. Unfortunately many of us let someone else’s behavior toward us influence our sense of self. And I thought it was so fitting to tie in RA as an example for us all. Hope tomorrow is better for you and your friend!

  5. I’m so sorry to hear that your friend and you are both having such a bad time of things. She is truly blessed to have such a wonderful, supportive and inspiring friend as yourself. I think far more of those qualities you admire In Richard are possessed by you than you realise. When I first came to your blog it was to share my admiration of Richard, I stay because of my admiration of you.

  6. Sis, if you’re talking about K, I just can’t imagine anyone saying an unkind word abut her- she’s such a dear. You’re so right, though- it says a lot more about them than about her. Know you have a lot to handle right now. Thinking of/praying for you daily.

  7. The other day I was feeling blue and so many of you came to my rescue, I can only hope that by sending out loads of positive energy today, I can help “K”, Angie, and all who need it today. I am a firm believer in the balance of life, what most people would call “what goes around, comes around.” Taking a step away from our “main squeeze” for a moment, let me just say “Obi Angie Kenobi” is a great force in our lives. When she hurts we all feel it, like a ripple in the water. I think we need a giant, all encompassing GROUP HUG! Here’s my piece of the hug…(づ。◕‿‿◕。)づ

    Be well today, my friend.

  8. Thank you for this great and inspiring post. 🙂 Self-doubt is a common ailment for bright and intelligent people. Mr Armitage is proof of that. If the self-doubt gets fed by disparaging and hurtful comments from others, often even people we believe in or look up to, the downward spiral is usually endless. Judging from the comments, this is a difficult time for many of us, me included. But being reminded that things seldom are ALL dark and ALL negative and seeing that there are so many lovely people around brightens my day. And for the moment I try to believe that one day at a time is all I have to deal with. Thanks again for reminding me.

  9. What a lovely post and what lovely comments! I, too, struggle with self-doubts! As one of my friends says, “We’ve got to stop beating ourselves up!” So many of us hold onto the negative statements and forget the positive ones when it should be the other way around. Unfortunately, those negative comments seem to be the ones to take root and grow! It’s so inspiring to read all of your affirming statements and quotes. I also love hearing about our hero’s struggles. He’s another sensitive soul who has used all of his sensitivities to give us wonderful, thoughtful characters that we’ll never forget!

  10. This was a beautiful post, Angie, and addresses quite a few things I’ve been wrestling with in my own endeavors lately. I also think that many people use hurtful comments to make themselves feel superior to others–and as far as I’m concerned, if that’s the only way you can feel better about yourself, then you have a far larger problem than the person you’re criticizing. I’ve often felt that Richard may have suffered some undeserved barbs early in his life that have (unfortunately) stayed with him. That he has achieved what he has and become what he is today in the face of his doubts and fears says even more about what a truly remarkable person he is. And also what a truly remarkable force of nature you are as well, Angie.

  11. It’s an unpleasant truth that of all the things people say to us, it’s the negative things that stay with us and replay themselves over and over. Grrr! Why does the mind work like this? I hope your friend has given those horrid comments the flick-pass they deserve and is feeling better and stronger, and that soon the other party will offer a genuine apology.

    • Unfortunately people who are unpleasant are very hard pressed to offer any kind of apology, let alone a genuine one. It just isn’t in them. I know, I had a rather unpleasant encounter with one yesterday after golf. She’s one of those who feels rather “entitled” as she has money, is one of the founding members of the country club, and is one of those who starts her conversations with “do you know who I am…” Since I AM one of those “who knows EXACTLY who and what she is (hahahahaha)” she doesn’t intimidate me. She was picking on our new Chef (of 1 day). After the encounter, she still didn’t have the common courtesy to apologize to the Chef. I could care less if she said anything to me, but don’t hurt my employee’s feelings for no reason other than you think she put “too much lettuce” on your BLT!

      • What, she couldn’t lift the bread and take off a piece of lettuce? People like that make me nuts–probably all those years of waitressing.

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